Having a relationship with a younger man was once considered taboo, but there is nothing wrong when dating someone outside your age group. However, entering this kind of relationship isn’t always easy. Though the modern era accepts the notion that age 40 is now the new 30, and 30 is now the new 20, there are still serious things to consider.
Age isn’t the only the only relationship factor to consider, you have social, monetary, and other relationship factors to deal with as well. Yes, being into a relationship with age gap issues, especially an older woman with a younger man, may be rewarding, but it can also be a big challenge, one that is hard to pull through.
Why Older Women Want to Date Younger Men and Vice Versa
Generally, the bottom line as to why an older women would like to date a younger man is the need to boost one’s ego. Same as with older men wanting to date younger women, they want to feel that they are still attractive and charming like they once did. It is a reassurance that they look for not only to remind them of their younger romances, but to also somehow bounce back from their failed relationships.
Most of these women may have come from failed marriages and may want to feel the excitement of love and being loved again. Having a forbidden love can boost their inner senses and boosts their confidence.
Likewise, they prefer to date younger men because they are more open with their feelings. Unlike older men who need to constantly fill their ego, young men are more confident and audacious to try new things, which can stimulate an older woman.
On the men’s side, on the other hand, they like older women because of their maturity and experiences. Having a woman who is confident and knows how to get the things they want done may be different from what they are used to and perceived as strong and sexy to a young man.
Likewise, older women are considered “trophies” to younger men. Women at their 40s, or 50s have a lot under their belts. They may be at the peak of their career, in a good monetary position in their life, have million-dollar insurances, and may have come to a point where they only simply want to enjoy a carefree life. Of course, there are also reasons like older women are more sexually adept, have a more peaceful and broader state of mind, more experience, and are more adventurous.
Problems That May Arise and How to Deal With Them
There are many problems that can crop up in an older woman/younger man relationship. Although they may be attracted to one another, both individuals may be at different stages of their lives and where they see their future going. It is important to recognize these differences and potential issues, so they can be dealt with to see if the relationship may be able to withstand the differences over time.
Problems with Acceptance Among Family and Friends
Whether you like it or not, you just can’t please everybody. There will always be one or two people who will raise their eyebrows at this set up. If you’re a divorcee, chances are your children will disapprove of your relationship. They may think that the man is a user or a gold-digger. It would be best to check these things out first yourself, before you ever introduce your special someone to any member of your family, particularly children. It’s not like you will be hiding the relationship, but it is best to set boundaries and limitations and know what you really want, and whether or not you’re really ready to face these challenges.
Then again, once things are settled straight, it can also help to see if your younger man is truly sincere by how he reacts and behaves when faced with these kinds of situations. If he backs off, don’t be blinded by your love. Be honest with yourself and see it for what it is. Then, you can hope for the best or move on.
Older women are usually the ones who feel insecure in this situation. There will always be that fear in them that their younger partner will either leave them for a younger woman someday, or that they may actually be insincere. It is important for the woman to eliminate all insecurities and fear because they will never appreciate true happiness if they preoccupy their minds with this negativity. A free personal astrology reading can help you see this opportunity within your soul. Their man, on the other hand, must learn how to give consistent reassurance in their own little way. Love is a two-way street, and both parties should be aware of each other’s insecurities and help to alleviate them.
Issue of Marriage or Raising A Child
This issue may not arise soon, but this is something that both parties need to talk openly and honestly about. Marriage would only be an issue if there is someone opposing it, such as the children of the woman, or the parents of the man, as well as their own group of friends.
It is important that both parties give ample time to spend with their loved one’s group of friends and family members. This would give them enough time to know each other and to be comfortable with one another. This way, when the time calls for wedding bells, things won’t be much of an issue.
With regards to having a child, it would be best that this issue is taken at a slow pace. If the woman is approaching her menopausal stage, it may have to be addressed sooner rather than later since childbearing years may be running out, although there are a lot of other options, like adoption, or simply be contented with each other’s company. If this issue is addressed early in a general, “Would you ever consider having kids?” manner, it will give both parties an idea about what each is looking for if their relationship were to progress to marriage in the future. However, neither party wants to come off as desperate to have a child, especially earlier on in the relationship.
As odd as it may sound to some, there are numerous accounts of successful relationships between an older woman with a younger man. Some may believe that this kind of love relationship may only be sparked because of wrong reasons like having the need to feel attractive again, the need to be financially stable, or the need of companionship. However, believe it or not, younger men fall in love with older women and vice versa for the right reasons too, which is love.
As the saying always goes, “All is fair in love and war, and love does not seek any boundaries.” So, whether you are an older woman who is in a relationship with a younger man, or perhaps an older man with a younger woman, you deserve to be loved. Everyone does. So, age should never be an issue. A free relationship compatibility reading can be a get help in establishing strong communication skills.
As long as both parties know how to compromise and deal with certain social norms, emotional and physical limitations, and both are genuine and sincere with each other, then the odds of having a successful relationship is never impossible.