Do relationships have some kind of secret that makes some of the work and others not? They might have. It seems that there are people who feel sorry for themselves, without doing anything to change that, and there are others who live their lives dealing with any problems that they encounter. They might have learned these precious secrets from their families or friends.
Here are a some tried and tested ideas from those who have experienced healthy and long-lasting relationships:
Remember – Sit back and remember the time when you first met each other. Especially in hard times, try to sit back and recall the old time events and situations that reconnect you with each other.
Rendez-Vous – Although life is sometimes like a high-speed train, try to spend the evening together. It does not have to be something out of the ordinary, watching a movie together or playing cards or chess will do just fine. Try to simply enjoy the moment.
Have Fun – Most of us tend to have fun when we are dating and start to get serious once we get married. Forget that! Browse some of the fun websites out there and try out a few online games together. Or borrow a game console along with some games – enjoy them and simply have fun!
Forgive And Forget – It is useless to constantly think about all the unpleasant events that happened during a dispute. Let them off your mind then and there. Do not be shy and be the first to forgive and forget! It can be a very relieving feeling.
Distance – Keep a certain distance between each other. Everyone needs some space and time to spend alone or with friends. Every now and then we need some distance from our partner, make sure that both of you enjoy the same amount of personal freedom.
Argue – There is nothing wrong with disagreeing on certain things. However it is useless to get into flaming discussions and argue all night long. It is just not necessary to agree on everything. Do not worry, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Things To Remember – Enjoy some quality time together, it does not have to be something really sophisticated. You might for example have enjoyed the fireworks the other day. A year later you might want to plan to watch it again. You can turn this into a habit. Gather articles and photos about fireworks, buy a couple of firecrackers on your own, read about the history of fireworks – who knows, it might turn into a passion.
As a conclusion do not just simply sit there and feel sorry for yourself. Little things can build a better relationship and the big problems might not seem that big at all. To build better relationships you have to be aware of what needs to be done and especially how it is done. There is no need to reinvent the wheel, simply implement some of these tried and tested ideas to have a better relationship.